How to be thick skinned? Not everyone that comes your way has the best intentions…. Or do they? Are they posing a challenge to you as a test. A test of your own inner strength. When someone approaches you guns blazing you have about 45 seconds to choose whether to duck, step aside and let them pass ,or face it head on. Brene Brown writes about these types of experiences in her book ‘Rising Strong’.
Before you can truly get up, you have to fall, Brene writes, ‘ The Truth is that falling hurts. The dare is to keep being brave and feel your way back up’.
Why is it that we can be having a so called great day and one tiny moment or action can totally change our perspective on the whole day. In that one nano second, we can go from a range of zero to infinity emotions. An explosion of ‘what just happened,’ runs through our minds and our hearts race.
Then the moment has passed, how we choose to carry on will define our next moment and the next and so on. Do we choose to carry that hurt on and pass it on to the next person, or we able to let it go? Again as Brene explains, ‘ There are too many people today who instead of feeling hurt are acting out their hurt, instead of acknowledging their pain, they’re inflicting pain on others’
So, do we need to be thick skinned and oblivious to our emotions, or do we need to feel and own our emotions? If we fall we do not need to take others with us. If someone else has fallen you do not need to fall with them. Be aware of the difference and choose to rise up.
Have a great day
Louise x